Category: Lifestyle

My views on politics, religion, health, intimacy, and more

  • Don’t Ask WHAT? Don’t Tell WHAT?

    Despite what our Republican Arizona state senator John McCain says, today’s a very happy day. Any policy that discriminates against, persecutes, and dishonors people for no good reason is a bad thing, and its repeal is a good thing— good not only for gays & lesbians in the military but also for their fellow soldiers. Heck, I think it’s good for our country and the world, because it fosters an atmosphere of maturity and civility and sends the right message to the world that America is indeed the land of the free and the home of the brave.

    Incidentally, I took this photo last night at AZ88, a restaurant bar in the Scottsdale Civic Center, after watching Handel’s Messiah at the Scottsdale Center for the Performing Arts. I had no idea how timely it would be the very next day!

  • Our Chihuahua Zoey does her ground-scratching ballet

    The funniest thing about how our little dog scratches the ground is how she holds her hind legs back in a stretched pose. The other funny thing about her is she will scratch the ground to mark it with the scent glands in her paws even if she hasn’t peed or pooped. I’ve never seen a dog scratch for nothing before and hold the hind legs back in a stretch like that. She’s like a ballerina holding an arabesque.

  • The -isms & -ists of Oralism & Oralists

    Since so many people responded on my blog to the first video about this topic, “Re Oralism vs Speaking” that I embedded in a blog post, I have been responding and thinking about this issue. One thing that stands out for me is the meaning of the suffices -ism and -ist. These can simply mean “system” or “practitioner” but they also have loaded connotations of strong belief systems and prejudices– and the people who espouse such attitudes and prejudices.

    My view is that there is nothing wrong with any mode of communication, be it ASL, signed English, or speaking and speechreading. Although I realize that “oralism” is a hot-button issue with many deaf people for whom it carries heavy emotional associations, I believe that if all of that emotional baggage is put aside, it can be seen that speaking and speechreading are simply ways of communicating. (To quote from William Shakespeare’s Hamlet, “…there is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.”)

    Far be it from me to tell oral deaf what to call themselves, but (more…)

  • Re Oralism vs Speaking

    This is my response to Ella Mae Lentz’s vlog about the difference between the philosophy of oralism and the mere act of speaking, either by deaf or hearing people. In this video, signed in ASL—PSE (along the continuum), I tell of my experience as an interpreter with oral deaf, English-oriented deaf, and strongly ASL deaf people. In my experience, I have not found oral deaf people to be against signing deaf or condescending toward culturally deaf people who choose to use sign language instead of speaking and lipreading. I share my experience being an oral transliterator for certain deaf people who were able to read almost 100% of what I mouthed, despite the “myth” that oral deaf people understand only 30–40% of what the get from reading lips. I also share my experience of having a deaf boyfriend who was culturally deaf and very strong in ASL, not so strong in English. When his mother came to visit, she insisted that he could read her lips even when she wasn’t facing him. He looked to me for interpretation, and I thought, “Why should I have to interpret for my boyfriend and his mother? Come on, Mom, learn sign!”

    My basic message echoes what Ella said in her blog: (more…)

  • Bullshit from Senator McCain

    Dear Mr. Smithers,

    Thank you for contacting me regarding the military’s “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy. I appreciate hearing your views on this controversial issue.

    Recently, the Senate Armed Services Committee received testimony from Secretary of Defense Robert Gates and the Service Secretaries on the military’s “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy, echoing the desire of President Obama to have it repealed by Congress. The committee also heard the personal views of the Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, Admiral Mike Mullen, several of the combatant commanders, and most recently, the Service Chiefs, who have responsibility for the organization, training, and overall readiness of their forces and for providing their best military advice to the President on matters that might affect their ability to ensure sufficiently trained and ready forces.

    Each of the military’s Service Chiefs has expressed his support for the comprehensive, ten-month policy review of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” that Secretary Gates has directed. However, each has indicated that he is not prepared to support a repeal of the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy at this time. Based on their expert testimony, I am urging Congress to await the completion of the Pentagon’s policy review in order to give the Service Chiefs the information they have asked for before any attempt is made to change law. I will strongly oppose any attempt to change the current law based on an incomplete and inadequate review of this policy, and I hope that my fellow Senators will also take this approach in the interest of national security.

    With respect to the review itself, I have expressed my concerns about its focus and scope. Unfortunately, in his testimony earlier this year to the Senate Armed Services Committee, Secretary Gates described the mandate as “a review of the issues associated with properly implementing a repeal of the ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ policy.” The guiding question, as Secretary Gates put it, should be “not whether the military prepares to make this change, but how we best prepare for it.” This is consistent with President Obama’s goals, but it seems to get things backwards: The current Pentagon review should be an objective study of the relevant military issues, not an implementation plan.

    The issue that Congress must decide, and the issue the Service Chiefs should be asked to give their best military advice about, is whether the “Don’t Ask Don’t’ Tell” policy should be repealed. We should ask that question to our service personnel and their families at all levels and genuinely consider their views in our debate. Clearly, there are many policy and logistical challenges that would have to be overcome if the law is repealed, but that should not be the primary focus of the ongoing policy review. I will continue to insist that we use the coming months to study not only how to implement a change to the current policy, but also whether and why the men and women of the Armed Forces – the generals, the officers, the NCOs, and the privates – support or oppose such a change. I would then expect the views of the Service Chiefs to incorporate this critically important information.

    I am proud of, and thankful for, every American who chooses to put on the uniform of our nation and serve their country, particularly in this time of war.The “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy is not perfect, but it reflects a compromise achieved with great difficulty that has effectively supported military readiness. However imperfect, the policy has allowed many gay and lesbian Americans to serve their country. I honor their service, I honor their sacrifices, and I honor them. But we should not change the current policy until we are confident – from a military standpoint, with the informed advice of the Service Chiefs – that such a change is consistent with military effectiveness.

    Again, thank you again for writing me on this issue. Feel free to contact me in the future on this or any other matter.

    Sincerely,

    John McCain

    United States Senator